When Self Doubt Runs The Show
“I was snapping at the people I loved the most, not because of what they said, but because of what I believed about myself.”
Self-doubt used to run the show.
I had an inner dialogue that questioned everything I did, especially my parenting. Was I doing bedtime right? Did I allow too much screen time or feed the right foods, and on and on? Little did I know that the questioning stemmed from a lack of confidence and belief that I wasn’t good enough.
The worst part was that the self-doubt didn’t just stay in my head. Because I was second-guessing myself and putting myself down, even innocent questions from my husband or extended family, like someone asking me, “Where does this go?” felt like an attack. I’d feel shame and anger, not because they were questioning me directly but because I was already carrying so much self-doubt. This caused me to snap or stew in anger.
The pressure and relentless inner dialogue were exhausting.
This article was published in April 2025 on Todaysfamilymagazine.com. Click here to read the full article.
Rebecca Fellenbaum is a certified life coach, intuitive guide, writer, and entrepreneur. She helps women who have “made it” on the outside feel great about themselves on the inside so they can find joy in their lives, kids, and families. Get her free guide: Slowing Down: 9 Steps to Live With Intention to start meaning it when you say you’re doing fine.
